Surviving Grief Part II: My Reading With A Psychic Medium

For my birthday this year, I took a solo trip to Atlanta, GA, to meet with New Orleans native, Minister, and infamous psychic medium Dr. Lakara Foster.

My birthday trip was so emotional for me this year because my mom and I had planned to go to Atlanta together. Unfortunately, it would turn out to be the first birthday I have to celebrate without her. Initially, I wanted to cancel the trip altogether because my mom wasn't with me. But then I thought of a fantastic way to celebrate my birthday with my mother by reaching out to her through a psychic medium. My mom responded immediately.

Dr. Foster asked if the person I wanted to hear from was celebrating a birthday the day of my visit, March 27, 2025? I said, "No, my birthday is tomorrow, March 28." She wanted me to know that this motherly figure wishes me a Happy Birthday.

From the very beginning of the reading, Dr. Foster felt the energy of a grandmother/motherly spirit. The reason she felt an initial grandmotherly spirit is that when she imagines my mother, it's a lady in a closed, plush robe, suggesting a woman who lived a very dependent, closed-off, and private life, like most of our elders. She read my mother to filth! My mom was very private; she never asked anyone for help, even when she needed it the most, until the situation became too much to handle. She was also very private and reserved in her movements. She gave the impression that she was significantly older than 52 years old (the age she was when she died).

Dr. Foster began to draw pictures of every sign and signal my mom sent her. Please follow along for the following drawings:

• Two tombstones: These two tombstones signaled the death of both my parents.

• A House: Very significant. Before my mother passed, she wanted so badly for her and her companion at the time to get married and move into a house together. She wanted someplace to call home with someone she loved, yet it never happened.

• Butterflies: I couldn't figure out the significance of this one just yet, so we skipped past it. I'll come back to the butterflies at the end.

• Red Car/Cardinal: Back in the day, in the late 90s, early 2000s, which is my favorite era of my lifetime with my mom and in music, my mom used to drive a red 1982 Nissan Micra. It was the definition of a lemon car, but we made some of the best memories in it. This was the era of Mary J. Blige's "Share My World" album in 1997, with Mary sporting the white coat and white sunshades on the album cover. White sunshades were very popular in the past. My mom and I had a matching pair, and everyone who knew us always remembered us riding out on the town in her little red Nissan with our matching white sunshades on. My mom and I shared a secret about that car that I held on to until after her death, when I slipped up and told my grandparents. Her brakes had gone out on that car just about. As a temporary fix, my mom used to put a Pepsi pop can underneath the brakes to stop them from hitting the floor. Once it went all the way down, the brake pad wouldn't come back up. My mom told me never to say anything to my grandparents. I held on to that secret for 28 years. My grandparents got mad at both of us as if we were back in 1998 again, and it had just happened. It was comical. The only reason I brought it up was to share this portion of my Medium reading with them. Otherwise, it would still be a secret to this day.

• Flowers: My mom wasn't a flower person, but as soon as she mentioned flowers and if someone was named after one, I instantly knew my mom was signaling her own mother, my grandmother, named Rose.

• Numbers 3847: Till this day, we still haven't figured this one out yet.

• Baby & Rainbows: In 2010, at the age of 39, my mother had a miscarriage. Dr. Foster wanted me to know that my mother was with the baby she miscarried. They've reunited and are living happily together in spirit.

• Adoption: I instantly begin to tell Dr. Foster about how I didn't trust a family member on my other side of the family, surrounding concerns with my son. About three days before my mother's wake on July 1, 2024, I left the house at about 5:45 a.m. to go to Walgreens to purchase some diapers for my baby while he was still sleeping in bed, leaving him with family. By the time I left and came back from the 15-minute trip, my son had woken up and knocked over a pot of coffee on himself, giving him second-degree burns on his left shoulder. A family member of mine was also present and was burned while catching the coffee pot. More damage could have been done if my family hadn't been present during the incident. We immediately rushed him to the hospital, where he was provided the best care and has since healed from his wounds. Well, once a family member on my other side saw his bandages after a visit to her home, not too long after my mother's funeral, she began to constantly text me, wanting to Zoom me to check on him repeatedly, and was showing a little too much interest in my son for my liking. I am also aware that this family member has an unusually close relationship with Child Protective Services and often ends up fostering someone else's child within the family. I believe she was trying to build a case to do the same to me. Please be aware that people will fabricate a lie for the sake of cashing in on foster kids. I had this gut feeling in my stomach telling me to confront her about it. I have not heard from her since, and it's been a little over a year. Which further lets me know I was correct in my assumption that she was trying to find something to take my baby away from me. I'll continue to love from a distance until my son is fully grown. He is currently thriving in daycare and in life. As a mother, I can honestly say that, although I am not perfect, I am the best mother I know.

     Let's take it back to the butterfly. As we're ending our session, we walk past a room, and on the TV screen are purple butterflies in motion. Ironically, as I read from the beginning, I felt my mother's presence immediately after Dr. Foster acknowledged my birthday. To know that my mother was physically there with me in spirit gave me all the comfort I needed.

     Then I begin to ask her questions to ask my mother. One of the questions I wanted to ask my mom was how our roles had reversed as we grew older. It seemed as if I had somehow become the mom in our relationship, and I hated every moment of it because I missed my mom being my mom and having our mother-daughter bond. It felt like losing my mother and my sister because of how we grew up together.

     Dr. Foster explained to me that because my mother was a teen parent when she had me, often parents never age from who they were before they birthed a child due to the trauma of childbirth and mourning the loss of the life and the person they once were before having kids at such a young age. This made a great deal more sense and provided me with a deeper understanding. She also stated that my mother and I were soulmates, meaning in each lifetime we come back together. I asked if I was possibly her mother in a past life, and whether it was for that reason that our dynamic shifted as we both grew older together. She said that it is absolutely possible. However, I wouldn't know for sure until I book my next appointment with her for a past life reading, which I plan to do very soon.

     Overall, this experience brought me immense comfort and taught me that spirit and energy never truly die. While my mom may not be physically present on earth with me, her energy and spirit are always with me. My mother doesn't actually feel dead to me. It seems as if she has just left this realm and crossed over to another one, but our relationship never changes or ends. After this psychic medium reading, I now know why I feel this way.  

     If you're struggling with the loss of a loved one, I recommend Dr. Lakara Foster for a medium reading. She's honest, genuine, and pure. None of the details she presented to me are posted on any of my social media, except for my birthday. Otherwise, there was no possible way she could have known any of those personal details. This is one of the most effective ways to achieve closure. You don't necessarily have to say goodbye to your deceased loved ones because they're forever with you. However, getting closure and healing from the loss of their absence through mediation is necessary.

Mommy.

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