5 Simple Ways To Avoid Unhealthy Romantic Relationships

1. Love Yourself First And Always Take Care Of You.

- Treat yourself in a way that you would want a man to treat you. Value your worth.

- The relationship with yourself sets the tone for every other relationship you have.

- He will respect you as much as you respect yourself. He will love you as much as you love yourself.

- Take care of yourself mentally, spiritually, physically, and emotionally.

- Take diligent pride in your appearance. Stay groomed and well kept.

2. Research The Early Psychological Signs Of An Abusive Man.

- Know the signs of narcissistic behavior.

. Is he suicidal?

. Is he homicidal-suicidal?

. Does he have a history of mental illness?

- Define verbal abuse.

- Pay attention to your mental stability when you're with your significant other.

. If you are mentally drained or are experiencing forms of anxiety and depression around this man, then you may need to remove yourself from this relationship.

- Follow patterns of his temperamental outburst.

. Does he yell at you often?

. Does he threaten you with forms of abuse?

. Is he controlling and possessive?

. Has he ever put his hands on you in a pushing or shoving manner?

- Ask him about his criminal background history and his domestic violence background history. If he has a violent past then, he'll more than likely traumatize your future.

3. Utilize the 90 Day Rule.

- The 90 Day Rule is a three-month probationary period.

- Within this time get to know each other personally and learn as much about him as you possibly can.

- Ask him about his family and if there are children in the equation. Know what you are getting into.

. View all of his social media sites. If he is hiding his friends, post, and photos from you, then the chances are that he is protecting a whole relationship and family from you. He could be married. Discontinue this relationship. Anyone that needs to hide something from you is no good for you. Be with a man that is willing to be open, upfront, and honest about himself; No exceptions!

- Pay attention to the way he treats you within these three months. If his personality is fake, trust me, you will know. End it immediately. It will only get worse once he wins you over.

- Do not have sex with him during this probationary period.

. You will be able to determine whether he is in it for the long run.

. If he wants you, he will stick around beyond the 90 days.

. If sex is all he wants, then he will eventually move on to score with the next victim.

. In the end, he'll move on and get what he wants from another woman, and you won't lose anything treasurable out of it. Everyone is happy!

4. Cut Ties With All Of Your Exes.

- Disclaimer: If you and your ex just recently broke up and he decides within two weeks to 4

months that he's made a mistake and wants you back then chances are he's truthful. Take him back. Maybe space was needed for him to realize what he had and it helped him understand what he doesn't want to lose.

- Now if he decides five months to a year later that he wants to come back to you, nine times out of 10 the girl that he left you for didn't work out.

- The only reason he wants to go back is to see if he still has that same power over you. Kick him to the curve and never look back.

- He is vulnerable, and all he remembers is how you felt about him in the past. Coming back to you will only give him the ego boost he needs to repeat the same cycle by attempting to leave you again for somebody he thinks is better.

- Your exes will have to learn on their own that the grass is not always greener on the other side.

5. Be With A Man That Possess The Same Equal Amount Of Financial Stability Or More.

- Make sure that you both can bring something to the table.

- If he makes more than that makes it all the better.

- Following this concept allows you to avoid ego trips and jealousy to come into the relationship.

- Men are natural providers. Let him provide.

- Disclaimer: If you are happily married or are years deep into a relationship and life happens (loss of job, car accident, etc.) please stand by your man. If you kick him while he is down, you may lose the best man you'll ever have.

Black girl, protect your mental. Stay fruitful. You can do bad all by yourself.

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